On the Verge the Annual Cyclicalness of Singledom

DPizM on the Seasons of Relationships

Yeah, you know it is.  "Singledom" can seemingly last forever at times (I can attest to that). And through out this in-and-out of relationship phase I've noticed a pattern that is not only true to myself, but it was applicable to a lot of the people around me...

"April-ish" is the beginning of the "Single Season."  Meaning titties, muscles and bare naked skin just be out!  This is when single people flourish.  We float to the next available single person and we exercises our flirting abilities to the fullest simply because...we can.  We're available.  We have no ties.  We go from one booty to the next.  And for those in relationships, "April-ish" is the most difficult time to maintain your relation ship.  Why is that?  Because there is visual competition and the vibe of Spring and Summer is in the air.  Both man and woman are not only distracted outside their present relationship. they are entertaining the idea of "What if(s)?" with other people... This is the seed of conflict that will cripple and kill any relationship. Insecurities.

But then as the seasons begin to cool down, so do options for the single life. Less people are "out" and we can't call them all so we dwindle our selection.  This is where some relationships fail to take it to the other level often because the very person they chose to build a relationship with has chose on another relationship. So one person gets "left out" (Sorry for some, but keep your head up it's soon to be...)... 

..."August-Septemberish" By this time the "left-out" person still has her/her options because there is a whole population of good "left-outs."  And everybody wants to love... So many of the "left-outs" make use of  this period with other good "left-outs" and they find themselves in a relationship as well in order to build on something with quality...

"October-the Turning Point" This is when whatever relationship you're in begins to take a climb for the "Serious Route." I'm saying, you got the big holidays coming in November and December (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Kwanzaa & New Years ) and the weather is getting colder. By now, if you're in the relationship game, you've got a focus on at least 1 good prospect. You know, the one you're in sexual rhythm with.  The one who sends you regular nipple pics and "drops it off" every now and then. The one you go down on, feel me? Yeah, October can be a euphoric month filled with all kinds of bliss...

November-Decemberish It's a wrap.  You're kicking it now.  You're nipple pic collection has its' own hard drive and you've become to accept the uttermost "beautifuls" and "uglies" about your mate.  You may even love them.  If you're on a roll The giving holidays like Christmas and Kwanzaa are nails in the coffin.  These moments are your chance to solidify your game and make it the "...Best (fill in the blank) ever!"

January-New Years You're still in the blind path of love--especially after what you did and said during the News Count Down. This is your man/woman and they could very well be "The One" Yes, you believe this--and you might be right.... Or you might be wrong.  Plus a Birthday here and there--from either or both of you by now--may have been another hill of momentum, or nail in the coffin.

This is the precursor for Februaryish-Valentines Day.  You know this is when you lay it on thick.  You let him or her know that it's all about you "baby."  If you've been riding the cyclical pattern or singledom, you're not that single right now.  Your SEWN-UP! You're getting it on with that one main person and she or you might get pregnant around this time.  This is why there are so many Libras, Scorpios, Sagittarius and Capricorn around.  It's because the parents were riding the seasonal relationship vibe. They were feeling it.  In tune with the stars and the rotation of the Earth, feel me?

March (International Women's Month) For those who didn't make it through the relationship cycle, this is were the Cyclicalness of Singlehood begins--again.  The sun starts to peak put, the rain clears up and all those who ain't snuggling no more and available are showing skin, muscles or just tightening up our game.  Flirting.  Pimping.  Call it what you want, but it's April-ish and the gravity of ass is pulling on you again.  Once again, women rule the Earth and they let us know by pulling us helplessly in.  You gotta love it!

Stay strapped--And May the Verge Be With You.

Comments

[Blah Blah Blah]

I like.."droppin' it off"...

1st through...I'll be back (I know, soo Arnie Schwartzaneggar...lol...is that how you spell that damn name?)

[P]

I was wondering why I felt so 'dirty thirties' in and around this time of year.

Thanks for the assistance!

[Supa]

Dude. I lives in LA. I'm always feelin' April-ish...

Stay strapped!

[dpm]

Supa:

Ah'ight, Let's wait until "The October Turn Around" (wink).

[Supa]

A wise woman once said you must experience someone through all four seasons before you can really "learn/know" them..

Thx for the DPizM remix on it!

[meli]

"Stay Strapped....and "May" the verge be with you.

May is the month when one starts to peek at what s/he wants and begins the lets kick it or hang out sometime phase.

Whaterver the case may be, your analagy just sent me down memory lane. I reminise on my seasonal cycle and its outcome.

when it boils down 2 it, we all crave LOVE (2 b shared, given & received...sit wit it for a while)

Flowers r Bloomin,
M

[meli]

So happens, Im a Libra Baby...

I wonder what phase of the relationship my parents were in. Definitely hybernating and cuddled up!

Thanks for keepin your site poppin

[dpm]

Actually, I'm a Sag' and so is my son. I guess I got caught up too. Like father like son... We'll see if my lil' man keeps the pattern going.

[Free]

I'm with Supa on this one, D. Now that I live in the heat, it's April-ish for this sis!

[MzNewAgenda]

I got caught up to...my youngest is a Leo (so he was conceived during the holiday highs) and the older one is a Sag so that puts conception during the Valentines day hype...dang never looked at it like that *shudder* I'm dating a youngin now so we'll see bout this cycle *snicker*

[dpm]

MzNew:

The cycle is real! It is our collective weakness.