And when I see this girl, I imagine she wouldn't be chatting with a handful of girls talking about some celebrity and what they wore at some award ceremony. Instead she'd be approachable--like reading a good book--that I already read--at a cafe or something.
And when I approach her, I wouldn't even have to dig in my bag of "game." The right words would just spill out and the conversation would start from there. All the while, I'm admiring her skin, her smile, her teeth, and the fact that we can easily bounce random topics art and current events.
Then there'd be the clincher...the chemistry. The undeniable sensation of, "We can do this."
Side note: Is this a real thing? I mean, do people still run with the butterfly feelings in their gut or are we hesitant until we can get the other person's credit score and bank account summary?
I've actually learned the hard way that unless a couple is equally yoked and able to bring a balance of resources to the table, then the odds are against them.
Classic example: I had a girlfriend for nearly 5 years and she never really had a real job. But as soon as she graduated from school, began her career and got a little doe in her pocket, she slowly created a personality and life that didn't include me--nor was I included on her birthday trip to Mexico...Long story.
Basically, although I supported her to achieve her goal, it just seemed like she was unwilling to invest her new self into the relationship anymore. To say the least, in the end I felt like I lost out on a lot of time and money.
One thing I learned about myself is that I can be supportive and I actually like that characteristic. Yet, I'm cautious--even though I don't want to be. I guess a better word would be "practical."
However, I do believe in the power of a chemistry so persuasive that it can supersede the logic of practicality And even though I've grown to question the idea of it, it remains hard to resist or even stop looking for it in that "perfect person."...