SWA: Sistas With Attitude

True story: 

I'm at a club with my cousin and he sees a lady friend of his.  He, knowing that I'm interested in purchasing some property in the near future, decides to introduce me to her because she was a loan agent or something like that.  After he introduces me to her at the bar, her and I proceed to have a peaceful conversation about real estate and credit.

I kept it short and brief. In the end she gave me her card.

A moment later the seat on the other side of her became available. So I sat down to relieve myself from standing.   As a sat and become a bit more comfortable, I asked her where she was from.

She looked at me kinda crazy and said, "Guess."

Thinking she had an odd sense of humor, I guessed the city we were in and I ordered my drink in the same breath.

Of course, my guess was wrong, and she rolled her eyes as she corrected me. I tried to keep the small talk going, but it was obvious she didn't want anything to do with me.  At one point she even told me that my "lines" were "cliche."

When my drink arrived, she--interestingly enough--peered at my wallet and glanced the business card she just me 2 minutes ago.  She then said with disgust, "Where did you get my card from?"

"From you," I replied.

She twisted her face and asked, "When?"

"Just now," I told her. 

She then realized that I was the same person who was just standing next to her talking to her about buying property.  She apologized for her attitude and clarified that she didn't recognize me between to 5-second interval it took for me to move from my standing position on her left, to sitting on the stool next to her on her right.

"Whatever," I'm thinking.  But what I was more interested in was, "Why? And where did the attitude come from?"

Day-yham.

Comments

[Black Girl]

Okay. I have read the majority of your articles that discuss your interaction with Sistas. I understand that rejection is real. But why would you be sensitive to the reaction of a woman who was clearly not coherent enough to recognize you from one side to another. In reference to the "Call Back" Sistas, stop giving them energy. If you acted like they were non-existent you probably couldn't get them to stop calling. Of course its a sad day when you have to play reverse psychology to get the response you want. In truth, the ones that don't "Call Back" are probably doing you a great favor by not getting close enough for you to discover how "Scorned" they really are. In reference to Baby's Mamas....your absolutely right about reframing to only loving them. Truth is sometimes they may forget what it means to love themselves. Your interpretation of spitefulness is truly a sign of pain, a lack of happiness, and failing to find the love within. Overall, Black men as much as you would like the world to revolve around your existence and to believe that your plight is never-ending, the truth is not all life scenarios are a reflection of you or about you. Maybe the question you should be asking is "Why am I so sensitive to women that do not project positive energy in my direction?" Just a little something to think about :)

[Bobby]

Sister's have terribly negative attitudes and is one of many reasons why brothers like me, avoid them in exchange for dating and loving white women who are easier to get a long with. Besides, white women like to go down, whereas a sister will look at you like you're nuts, or tell me that I'm nasty. Sister's you can learn from the white girls and how they treat good, intelligent brothers like me.