Scorned Sistas

A very accomplished spoken word artist and colleague of mine wrote a poem the started out with the Shakespearean quote:
"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." 
He then adds his own statement:
"Then I must be living in hell, because all I see around me is scorned women."

I also have a cousin who once expressed to me that when it comes to Sistas, he feels like he is following a "Legacy" of Brothas that have done our Sistas wrong...

The rooted truth of the above statements lies is the fact that Sistas can be have a tenacity tendency to be a bit hesitant towards broth as due to their past relationships(s) or experiences. 

While it is totally human and understandable to be affected--or even traumatized--by another person resulting is emotional scars in need of healing, I just believe that for us, on the quest to experience "Black Love," we must be diligent to toward healing and being just as considerate with each other.

 

Comments

[Tyiesha]

Let's not forget that our (sistas) problems stem from a resentment that comes from a place none of us who are alive have been. None of us alive is legally a slave but the resentment of a man who LEGALLY cannot protect his woman and a woman who can never expect such protection from her man still lives. It was never our fault in the first place. We still love each other, though some are OTV :)Maybe one day we will see that we can finally let go of that shit and protect and take care of each other.

[The Cradle]

Sorry Tyneshia, but I am not buying this theory! If Black women can't get over slavery, something that didn't personally happen to them in their lifetime, then that is THEIR problem! Black men couldn't "protect" them back in those days, no more than black women could protect their offspring, or themselves! Blacks were considered as animals in those days! Sense we were bred to serve our slavers, we didn't have the reasoning to stand up against our oppressors back then! Everyone had a totally different mindset, and when I hear blacks talk about what they would or would NOT have done, I often laugh because they would have been caught up in the exact same conditioning that everyone else was trapped in! If today's black woman can't refrain from engulfing herself in the despair of slavery, and Jim Crow, then they don't deserve to be in a healthy relationship, because it is indeed unhealthy to make a struggle that happend centuries ago, thier own personal baggage! We are so used to the "struggle" that we now adopt any sort of past issues, just for the sake of being able to say that we are still "Struggling"! When do we stop with this facade, and start to embrace true happiness? Our ancestors died so we can move on in this society, not so that we would stifle ourselves in self-pity!